MP Hot Topic: Your Ex, Her Next! What is the Position of the Mutual Friend?
few
things
in
life
leave
me
perplexed.
Having
been
forced
to
grow
up
quickly, I take a lot of things in my stride. Nothing
is really new under the sun- just the perspective
with which you view it. So, when my friend buzzed
me to inform me of her latest conundrum it was
really funny and interesting.
Here’s the gist. Her friend, Molade recently got
engaged and she was super excited for her (as 21st
century girls get when they see a huge or not so
huge rock on their friend’s finger.) So what’s the
problem? Well, Molade’s affianced one used to be
the boyfriend of another friend named Ngozi. In
fact, Ngozi and Emeka dated for almost 7 years.
You know, one of those relationships where people
start asking them annoyingly ”When are we coming
to eat rice now?” . Everybody and their Momma
knew Ngozi and Emeka. Christmas parties, family
picnics, weddings, class reunions – they were
always together! Anyway they broke up and not
long after, Emeka and Molade start dating. Not
very long after, he proposes to Molade.
My friend then buzzes me saying, “I don’t know
whether to be excited for Molly or be sad for Ngozi.
I’m confused” I said, what’s there to be confused
about? Your friend is engaged, besides she didn’t
“steal” Emeka from Ngo. She had no part in the
dissolution of the union.
Often times, there’s the issue of how to behave
when an ex has moved on. There’s the awkward
disposition here and there. Someone’s pretending
like they’ve gotten over the hurt, or someone’s
trying to show that they’re actually in a better
position post the break up…. but nobody thinks of
the mutual friend.
Whose side should she be on? Where should her
loyalties lie? Should she hold the hands of the
person who has just found out that her long term
boyfriend has not only moved on but is getting
married, or should she be excited for her friend
who has just gotten a catch and is happily
planning her wedding?
What do you guys think? What would you do if you
were my friend? Have you ever been in that
situation? What did you do?
Let’s discuss!
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