TRUTH ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
Relationships are generally tough to manage.
Its hard managing your friends and family and
even tougher managing a spouse who you have to
live with day in day out for years to come.
I believe that humans are built to be self centred by
nature so in selecting a spouse we tend to choose
convenience over compatibility.
Men in the old days were more interested in
innocent (good) girls, then later on it was innocent
educated good girls, then educated classy
girls...today most men just want a pretty upwardly
mobile woman and prefer if they come from a
wealthy home as icing on the cake. Its pretty much
the same for women.
In essence it has become obvious that "Romance
without Finance is a Nuisance".
That is why a key fundamental ingredient for most
marriages has disappeared from our
society....RESPECT.
I believe there can be no LOVE if there is no
RESPECT.
That may explain the high divorce and separation
rates in our society.
Then we can consider the ripple effect of the same
lack of respect and regard across both families of
husband and wife.
In short if you have a man or woman you are
eyeing that gets married to someone else, you can
almost bet that you will get a shot at being with
them within 2 or 3 years because by then their
marriages would have hit the rocks. I hear of
marriages lasting 2 months..men is that a
premature *********** or what? I don't think I've
had any relationship that short sef.
Do not think that the people who are celebrating 15
or 20 year anniversaries have had it better than
you...most have had it tougher but they have stood
up straight, with their chin up and pulled through
out of desire and determination.
Some of them are happier now than they ever were.
Others are living a lie and just coasting on after
deciding that a loveless marriage is better than
being divorced.
There is no perfect person in the world..neither is
there a perfect relationship.....and that is a FACT.
So find someone who you can RESPECT and LOVE
so much that you can't imagine being with anyone
else. That should be the minimum requirement for
marriage.
Its hard managing your friends and family and
even tougher managing a spouse who you have to
live with day in day out for years to come.
I believe that humans are built to be self centred by
nature so in selecting a spouse we tend to choose
convenience over compatibility.
Men in the old days were more interested in
innocent (good) girls, then later on it was innocent
educated good girls, then educated classy
girls...today most men just want a pretty upwardly
mobile woman and prefer if they come from a
wealthy home as icing on the cake. Its pretty much
the same for women.
In essence it has become obvious that "Romance
without Finance is a Nuisance".
That is why a key fundamental ingredient for most
marriages has disappeared from our
society....RESPECT.
I believe there can be no LOVE if there is no
RESPECT.
That may explain the high divorce and separation
rates in our society.
Then we can consider the ripple effect of the same
lack of respect and regard across both families of
husband and wife.
In short if you have a man or woman you are
eyeing that gets married to someone else, you can
almost bet that you will get a shot at being with
them within 2 or 3 years because by then their
marriages would have hit the rocks. I hear of
marriages lasting 2 months..men is that a
premature *********** or what? I don't think I've
had any relationship that short sef.
Do not think that the people who are celebrating 15
or 20 year anniversaries have had it better than
you...most have had it tougher but they have stood
up straight, with their chin up and pulled through
out of desire and determination.
Some of them are happier now than they ever were.
Others are living a lie and just coasting on after
deciding that a loveless marriage is better than
being divorced.
There is no perfect person in the world..neither is
there a perfect relationship.....and that is a FACT.
So find someone who you can RESPECT and LOVE
so much that you can't imagine being with anyone
else. That should be the minimum requirement for
marriage.
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